清瀾山學校國旗下講話：情緒管理 | G7-2

來源：好上學 ??時間：2024-03-02

第一，情緒管理基本只是負面情緒的管理。人們只有在產生焦慮、憤怒、狂躁等情緒的時候才會想到要管理自己的情緒，實際上愉快和憤怒是情緒的一體兩面，你要管理的是你自身的情緒這一整體的系統(tǒng)，如果你控制不自己的狂喜，那你同樣也控制不了自己的狂怒。

國旗下講話：情緒管理 | G7-2

關鍵詞【情緒控制管理接受】

大家好我們是七年級二班的王楚涵、范冰凌，今天我們演講的主題是“情緒管理”。

情緒管理的本質其實就是：在理解和完全接納自己情緒的前提下，我們還能夠用理性去思考和控制自己的行動。

當我們談到情緒管理時，人們往往有兩個很深的誤解。

第二，情緒管理就等同于情緒壓制，有不少人將情緒管理理解為怎樣將自己的情緒給‘壓制’住。希望自己可以在憤怒的時候不憤怒，在悲傷的時候不悲傷，焦慮的時候不焦慮。他們希望得到一種外在的力量去‘打敗’自己的情緒或者將情緒消除。他們理所當然的認為，只要讓情緒消失，情緒就會乖乖聽話。但情緒管理即如同治水，堵住不如疏通。情緒既然存在，那么在他存在的時候就沒有辦法讓它消失。情緒不會消失，也無法被壓制，你必須理解和接納它。同時不管你有多大的情緒，多么激動。多么希望自己的情緒能夠發(fā)泄出去，你依然要用你的理智去思考和應對問題。

情緒管理的最根本目的是不讓情緒影響到?jīng)Q策。無論你產生了多么糟糕的情緒，情緒本身都不是問題。真正令你困擾的不是你的情緒，而是情緒給你帶來的感受，和你對情緒的負面理解。如果接受以上的觀點，我們就可以繼續(xù)討論如何管理你的情緒。

第一，我們要面對和感受自己的情緒。

絕大多數(shù)的情緒問題之所以會成為問題，其最根本的原因就是在于人們對于自身情緒的抵抗。情緒具有提醒作用，一個是對外界異常的提醒，一個是對內在異常的提醒。比如當一輛車對你沖過來的時候，你就會感受到危險的恐懼情緒。

情緒管理很差的人，基本上都是自我接受度很低的人。因為抵抗導致你沒有去面對真正的問題，所以問題就遲遲不能被解決。于是你的情緒就會一直不停的提醒你，情緒就變得越來越強烈，你的焦慮，不安，憤怒就會變得越來越難以抑制。

所以情緒管理的第一步就在于面對，理解，和接受你的情緒。這意味著全然的體會和感受你的情緒。體會和感受情緒就意味著你在掌握控制權，而情緒又變成了一個客體，所以它就無法再掌控你。

二，我們要分析自己的情緒。

我們的情緒只會按照我們自身認知系統(tǒng)的標準去做出反應，而我們每個人的認知系統(tǒng)中又有著非常多的不合理的觀點。我們首先要確定從情緒系統(tǒng)中接受的提醒是否是正確的，然后我們才能做決定如何去處理。

三，最后我們用理性思考。

我們要學會在情緒激動時切斷情緒對我們自己決策系統(tǒng)的影響，不管你多么的悲傷、多么憤怒、多么恐懼，你的行動和選擇都是由理性思維所作出的。你能夠意識到情緒上激動和理智的決斷在本質上是兩回事，任何時候你的決策系統(tǒng)都可以將情緒因素隔絕在外。

這就是情緒管理的真正目的。

謝謝大家！

Hi everyone, we are Daisy and Helen from Class 2 of Grade 7

The topic of our speech today is "Emotional Management"

The essence of emotion management is actually: Under the premise of understanding and utterly accepting our emotions, we can also use reason to think and control our operations.

When we converse and deal about emotional management, one often have two extensively deep misunderstandings.

First,emotional management is predominantly just the management of negative emotions.People only think about managing their emotions when they have anxiety, anger, mania and other emotions.In fact, happiness and anger are two sides of emotions. What you have to manage is your own emotions as a whole system. If you can't control your ecstasy, then you can't control your anger either.

Second, emotional management is equivalent to emotional suppression.The majority acknowledge emotional management as how to suppress their emotions. In laymens terms meaning that one is able to get back to the original track after facing numerous refractory emotions. They dependently rely on an external force to vanquish their emotions or eliminate them.They take it for granted that as long as the emotions disappear, the emotions will be obedient.But emotional management is like treating water, it is better to dredge. Since the emotion permanently exists, there is no way to make it disappear while it chronically exists.Emotions will not disappear and cannot be suppressed. One must understand and accept it.At the same time no matter how emotional you are, how excited you are. How much hope that your emotions can be vented, you still have to use your reason to think and deal with problems.

The most fundamental purpose of emotion management is to prevent emotions from affecting decision-making.No matter how bad your emotions are, emotions themselves are not an irremediable obstacle.What really bothers you is not your emotions, but the feelings that emotions bring to you and your pessimistic understanding of emotions.If you accept the above point of view, we can move on to discuss how to manage your emotions.

First: we have to face and feel our emotions.

The most basal reason why most emotional problems become problems lies in people's resistance to their own emotions.Emotions have a reminder function, one is to remind of external abnormalities, and the other is to remind of internal abnormalities.For example, when a car rushes towards you, you will feel dangerous fear.

People with poor emotional management are basically people with low self-acceptance.

Because resistance causes you not to face the real problem, the problem cannot be solved for a long time.Your emotions will keep reminding you, your emotions will become more and more impenetrable, your anxiety, anxiety, and anger etc will become more and more onerous to suppress.

The first step in emotional management is to face, understand, and accept your emotions.This means fully experiencing and feeling your emotions.To experience and feel emotions means that you are in control, and emotions become an object, so it can no longer control you.

Second, we have to analyze our emotions,

Our emotions will only react according to the standards of our own cognitive system, and each of us has a lot of unreasonable opinions in the cognitive system.We must first determine whether the reminders received from the emotional system are correct, and then we can make decisions about how to deal with them.

Finally, we think rationally

We must learn to cut off the influence of emotions on our own decision-making system when emotionally excited:No matter how sad, angry, or fearful you are, your actions and choices are made by rational thinking.You can realize that emotional agitation and rational decision are essentially two different things, and your decision-making system can isolate emotional factors at any time.This is the real purpose of emotional management.

Thank you!